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Ever think about how your life might change if you lived & worked with “enough”? Studies show that no one is happier because they have more stuff and/or money. Once we have enough, we also have more time and space to be. In this space & body & mind of wellbeing, we create more joy, love, kindness, being, sharing. We are more creative over all. I ask this question because “enough” has been a concept I’ve contemplated for sometime. For instance, about 10 years ago my husband and I were interviewing a potential financial advisor. When we walked into his office, he had three screens lit up. One of them being the March Madness basketball games. I just didn’t get a very good vibe from him so I knew he wasn’t going to be the right fit for us. And I’m sure he was the right fit for many; it’s not for me to decide whether or not he chose the right job. However, at one point I stopped and asked him, “do you know what enough money is for you?” Because I wanted to know if he thought about a goal for himself. Mostly, I wanted to know if he’d reflected upon what he needed to save in order to feel fulfilled, or accomplished. I wanted to know if he had a sense of enough-ness. He paused briefly, and his reply was, “no”. I happen to think it’s just as important for us to know what fulfilment and success means when it comes to our financial security. And if we’re not working with at least a partially defined goal, then, perhaps we won’t know when we’ve arrived at enough; and we will just keep accumulating for accumulation’s sake. The way we can become unconscious do-ers, compulsive consumers, over-eaters, hoarders, drinkers, gamblers… Uber wealth, like our relationships with everything in our lives, all seem to be another form of addiction. Without a conscious mind & body relationship guiding our way in this life, we can lose ourselves in unskillful practices. #enough #yogalifestyle #practice #PracticeEveryDay #Love #Sharing #Community #Wellbeing #ease #Comfort #simplyliving #creativity #enoughforeveryone #possibilities #addiction #mindfulliving #giving

Self-Care = Self-LoveOur true nature is to love ourselves, yet we forget. Like a muscle, it needs to be flexed and strengthened, and one of the most direct ways to do this is through acts of self-care.When we tune into our body, mind, heart, and soul, we become fully present within ourselves — and to our needs. In other words, self-care is a catalyst for self-awareness, self-respect, and self-love.But self-care can be hard to practice. It often seems much easier to think about other people’s needs before our own, to prioritize caring for our friends, family, spouse, children, pets — or even our possessions like a house or car— above our own care. Why is that?The joy of making someone else happy is immensely rewarding. Taking care of our belongings can give us satisfaction. What we might not always remember is that self-care is not an #indulgence but a #necessity — how can we be there for those we love if we’re not taking care of ourselves?If you’re a little out of practice with self-care, try this simple exercise: Take a moment to sit quietly and ask yourself: What’s one easy thing I can do now that would feel good? Maybe it’s enjoying a moment of silence. Maybe it’s getting up and going for a stroll outside. Maybe it’s sipping a comforting cup of tea. Whatever it is, do it with your full acceptance and presence.Think of self-care as an invitation to be #kind to yourself and then take that positive energy forward into your interactions and experiences. Start small with little daily acts of self-love that will nourish your soul. #selfcare #kindness

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Probably the most important ingredient for self care is SELF COMPASSION. I don’t think it’s spoken about nearly enough, but I truly think that it is the foundation upon which all other aspects of self-care are built.Self-compassion is about treating yourself with the same kindness and understanding that you would offer to a good friend. It’s recognizing that being imperfect, making mistakes, and encountering life's challenges are all a part of being human.Without self-compassion, our self-care practices can sometimes become another checkbox or even a tool for self-critique. True self-care is rooted in self-compassion, which allows us to care for ourselves in a genuine, nurturing way. It encourages us to look at ourselves with understanding, rather than judgment. It's about acknowledging our struggles, giving ourselves permission to feel, and understanding that we don't always have to be at our best.When we embrace self-compassion, we create a space for healing and growth. We learn to be more resilient, to forgive ourselves, and to move forward with a sense of peace and acceptance.This Sunday, let’s treat ourselves with the same kindness we’d offer to someone we love.Cherie 💚#SelfCare #SelfCompassion #MentalHealthDay #FamilyTime #WorkSmart #SelfCareRituals #CherieSilas #TandemCoaching

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Probably the most important ingredient for self care is SELF COMPASSION. I don’t think it’s spoken about nearly enough, but I truly think that it is the foundation upon which all other aspects of self-care are built.Self-compassion is about treating yourself with the same kindness and understanding that you would offer to a good friend. It’s recognizing that being imperfect, making mistakes, and encountering life's challenges are all a part of being human.Without self-compassion, our self-care practices can sometimes become another checkbox or even a tool for self-critique. True self-care is rooted in self-compassion, which allows us to care for ourselves in a genuine, nurturing way. It encourages us to look at ourselves with understanding, rather than judgment. It's about acknowledging our struggles, giving ourselves permission to feel, and understanding that we don't always have to be at our best.When we embrace self-compassion, we create a space for healing and growth. We learn to be more resilient, to forgive ourselves, and to move forward with a sense of peace and acceptance.This Sunday, let’s treat ourselves with the same kindness we’d offer to someone we love.Cherie 💚#SelfCare #SelfCompassion #MentalHealthDay #FamilyTime #WorkSmart #SelfCareRituals #CherieSilas #TandemCoaching

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Have you heard this before?You can't pour out of an empty cup.You need to practice self-care.Maybe several times.You know the importance and even teach others about it.While we are encouraged to practice self-care, it's important to understand the concept.First, let's identify what self-care is not.Self-care is not:👉 Escape from reality👉Another item on your to-do list.👉A distraction to avoid processing your emotions.Self-care is giving yourself permission to say yes to yourself beyond your role as parent, partner or those responsibilities and titles you carry.👉It's about tuning into yourself.👉It is identifying what area of your life needs attention, care and responding to that need.Now, let's take stock.What did you do for yourself this week?Did you set any goal for it?Did you plan to achieve it?Did you do it?Don’t wait for someone to give you what you can give yourself. Remember that no amount of love, care, and attention from others is enough to fill the yearning that your soul requires from you.So, love yourself so fiercely, that when others see you they know exactly how it should be done.Read up to this point? I'd love to hear what you do for self-care.Today is a good day to prioritize that person you see in the mirror who has been through so much and is still standing.Happy weekend.Prioritize You.I am Esther Ogbaji Stress-less RN Let's get better at stress.#selfcare #selflove #stressrelief#weekend

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The person you spend the most time with is yourself, don’t lose their respect. So make sure you’re looking out for that relationship as a priority. Bottom line up front, show up not for others, but for yourself. Keep your word to yourself and keep your promises to yourself.I believe it's so important to nurture a strong sense of self-respect and self-worth within ourselves. When we uphold the promises we make to ourselves and treat ourselves with kindness and understanding, we lay a solid foundation for our self-esteem and self-image. It's crucial to remember that practicing self-care isn't selfish; it's a vital component of maintaining our overall well-being and happiness.In the midst of our busy lives, it's all too easy to prioritize the needs and expectations of others over our own. However, it's absolutely essential to recognize that we deserve the same level of care and consideration that we readily give to others. By showing up for ourselves and honoring our own needs, we demonstrate a deep level of self-respect and self-love that can empower us to face life's ups and downs with strength and resilience.#weareneveroutofthefight#PayTheRent#keepthefaith#cantstopwontstop#keeppushingforward#youcomefirst#youarepriority

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Feeling weighed down by the challenges of today's world? You're not alone. Living in a constant state of fear can push us into survival mode, impairing our decision-making. As trauma survivors, it's crucial to recognize safety in the present moment and tap into innate creativity as a source of strength.By creating small moments of joy and positivity, you can:•Make tough situations feel more manageable•Calm your nervous system•Spread positivity to others•Foster feelings of connection and shared humanity•Embrace activities that bring you joy, whether it's dancing to music, connecting with a friend, or trying something new. These moments of happiness can have a profound impact on your well-being and help rewire your brain's response to adversity.Take charge of your day by infusing it with healthy, joyful moments. Whether it's a simple smile at a stranger or a moment of relaxation with a cup of tea, prioritize self-care and embrace the good moments amidst life's challenges. Remember, you deserve moments of peace and joy. Learn more, https://ow.ly/AAuO50Rxhnh.Need extra support? Reach out to office to schedule a consultation with one of our therapists.

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It’s ‘Self-Care September’. I discovered in the past decade that 'Self-care isn't selfish. It's essential.' (in moderation, as anything). I'm happy that looking after myself is something I now balance and handle well (or so I like to think) without descending into narcissistic “Me-ism”. That's why I share this, hoping it might help you too.Life taught me a valuable lesson: 'Be open about your feelings and ask for help when needed'—this can make a world of difference. Day 9 action brings to mind a former colleague's advice that has stuck with me: Often it's 'better done than prfect' (typo intended, h/t Andrew Croasdale).I've also become quite good in two other actions: 'Avoid saying "I should"...' (day 25)—instead, focus on what you 'want' (though, not everyone in my life is happy about that). And 'Choose to see your mistakes as opportunities to learn.' (day 28)What actions can / will you take?I'd like to share a few more actions I find essential: There's no benefit in being hard on yourself (others will anyway); instead, 'Forgive yourself when things go wrong. Everyone makes mistakes' (day 5). Despite… no! Because of busy schedules, constant notifications, and endless demands, 'Give yourself permission to say "no"' (day 7) - set boundaries.Especially in today's world of curated social media images, 'Don’t compare how you feel inside to how others appear outside' (day 21).Now, I'm curious—who is that 'trusted friend who tells me what strengths they see in me' (day 18)? Yeah, here I'm fishing a bit...Note of caution; this is not advice to seek self-affirmation, self-fulfilment at any costs, not the deification of “me”, turning into a narcissist. Everything in moderation. Restrain is also a virtue, so is caring for others. Wishing you happiness on your journey.#ActionForHappiness #SelfCare

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One day, back when I worked in an office and before I had kids, there was a freak day in the middle of Winter when the whole of my town was covered in black ice.That morning, completely unaware of what lay outside, I headed out of my back door to take my chickens some hot water to make their breakfast (yes, I really loved those chickens 🥰). As I got to the steps that led to their coop, I hit the black ice, and in cartoon fashion my legs flew from under me. Before I knew it I was on the floor - wind knocked out of me, my ever dislocating left shoulder out of place, the bowlful of hot water cooling rapidly as it soaked into my clothes. I was so dizzy and disorientated I lay there for a good few minutes on the freezing stone flags. I then coaxed my shoulder fully back into its socket, and as I couldn’t stand, I began to crawl slowly back to the house where I collapsed in the porch calling for my husband to come and help me up.He got me onto the sofa and made me a cup of tea, where I rested for a few minutes feeling sick and in pain. Then, a few minutes later I said "Right, I don’t want to be late - I’d better get to work."My husband tried valiantly to persuade me to call in and at least tell them I wouldn't be in until lunchtime to give myself time to recover and to check that my body was OK. But no. Never one to make a fuss, never one to let anyone down, I headed in at the usual time like nothing had happened. Why? Why did I drag myself into work feeling awful? I certainly didn't have anything 'big' going on at work and I wasn't a brain surgeon in my previous career - no lives would be lost if I took the morning off. Back then, there were three main reasons - all linked to my chronic people-pleasing. Read the rest of this blog post here: https://lnkd.in/egbtHqPF#stressrelief #blogpost #selfdevelopment #wellbeing #mindset #yogateacher #personalgrowth #peoplepleasing #careerdevelopment #stress #coaching #coachingwithmovement

Someone mentioned yesterday, 'Good luck to pleasing everyone!' But as I packed my kids' lunch bags for school this morning, I realized that's not always an absolute truth. Some of us are in roles where we feel obligated to meet others' needs, and that's a heavy responsibility. As a parent, teacher, caregiver, or leader, we often put others' expectations and requirements above our own.In my journey of self-discovery, I've realized that pleasing everyone isn't always possible, nor is it healthy. But what we can do is strive to understand and meet the needs of those who depend on us, while also taking care of ourselves. It's a delicate balance, like trying to juggle too many balls while walking on a tightrope... blindfolded!So, to all those in roles where pleasing everyone seems like a must, remember that you can't pour from an empty cup. Take care of yourself, set boundaries, and prioritize your own needs. You'll be a better, more sustainable version of yourself for those who need you. And when someone says, 'Good luck to pleasing everyone!' you can smile knowing that you're doing your best, and that's enough.Now, let's get real... who else is tired of trying to please everyone? Who's struggling to balance their own needs with the demands of others? And who's just winging it and hoping for the best? (Guilty as charged, over here!)Seriously, though, how do you prioritize your own needs when everyone else's expectations are screaming for attention? Share your tips and tricks in the comments below!#selfdiscoveryandlove#journeytoselfdiscovery#DailyInspiration #randonmusings #nafisustain

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